I’m at a point in life where I am taking a closer look at myself and my life.  What is the purpose of my life, I find myself asking “myself”.

Last year I made a decision to down size my business.  I did that at the end of the year.

It’s funny how you can have a plan…A,B, and C and still get caught in a struggle with the “unexpected.”  Now what, what do you do when you don’t know what to do?

I wanna tell some people off, scream and cry my eyes out!

But after all that is said and done, then what?

Here I am almost 40, going through so many life changes.  (I was warned this would happen around mid-age)

I’m facing a “red sea,” (impossible situation).

One thing I believe is “the force before me is greater than the force against me.”

Yes I’m discouraged, yes I want to give up at times; who doesn’t.  But to give up my faith, my courage, my beliefs in myself is allowing the enemy to succeed.

I continue to encourage myself: you have big goals, you have big dreams!  Don’t you dare settle just because you have disappointments in your path!

The purpose of my life, well just to live each day as if it was my last.

I’m a Christian and I have strong-faith.  If not I would have given up by now….you just don’t know the half of it!  I’m also human, just like you.

It does seem like the impossible to me through my “human eyes.”

We have a right to express ourselves.  We have a right to feel as if the walls are closing around us.  We have a right to become discouraged and to show emotions.  We have a right to tell people what we are going through without being judge.

I’ve learned those who judge others “harshly” are usually unhappy themselves.  They find themselves in repeated circumstances over and over.  They take what you say and do, then read into it the way they want to see it. A way that makes them “lash out at you”, trying to make you feel guilty and a way to put a smile on their face.   Because of their “reputation” they have to pretend to be a “certain way.”  They’re unhappy with their marriage, singleness, career or life in general, but don’t know how to admit to it or where to begin to fix the problems.

There is no reasoning with people who like to judge others-those so called people,  I keep at a distance.

As for me, I’m going to continue to walk through these valleys until I reach my mountain!  I will try not to look down, but to look up.  It will be hard.

I hope my audience who read my blog will be encourage from anything I write.  Come on board as we all encourage one another and respond to hard times together.

When ever I check the “singles” box,  I’m stating:  never married, confident and available!

Hello and welcome to my blog!  Here I am pushing 40 and wanting to share some of my past and future with you.

It’s funny when I tell my relationship status I get “what the …..looks or questions.” A few of my favorites:

“What, you too picky?” or “What… you too independent to need a man?”

As funny as it may be, it can be very irritating when asked the question, “why are you still single?”

Why can’t I be single just because I choose to be single for now?  I don’t ask married couples, “what, you couldn’t stand being alone”?  Or, “Oh no!  What happened?!

The thing is that I love being single.  One day I will love being married, but since I’m not there yet, I will talk about being 40 and single!  Whether you are divorced, widow, single parent or individual, I hope you will enjoy reading my blog often.